Returning to work

After almost a year and a half, I am returning to work!

Well, technically I returned in January in a 30-hr/week position, but next week, I start back full time. And I’m excited!

I have been amazed with the subtle (or sometimes not so subtle) opposition I’ve faced from other mom-friends about returning to work. Many of the women I know are stay-at-home-moms or moms who work but wish they could stay home. I actually don’t know any career-driven moms at all. I know they’re out there.

My heart breaks for the moms who work because they have to. I know several women who would kill to be in my shoes–able to stay home. And my heart is delighted for women who LOVE being at home all the time with their kids.

But we have to be cautious not to judge one another. 1) Because the Bible says not to and 2) because what’s right for my family may not be right for yours.

When I had Corbin, I knew I wanted to breastfeed. It wasn’t just because research said it was the best for him. I wanted to do it. And I did. For a year. And honestly? I hated almost all of it.

Corbin was a biter and had trouble from the beginning. He also spit up a whole lot, so we spent the majority of our first year together wet. Additionally, his little tummy didn’t really process animal protein well, so I was a vegetarian/vegan for 4 months or so. But it was worth it for me because it was a decision I had chosen for him.

I had friends who didn’t breastfeed. Some of them couldn’t because of medical issues or work. Some of them could and chose not to. If they ever asked me my opinion on the benefits of breastfeeding (which they didn’t), I would’ve told them. But the point is: it’s their decision, not mine. There were days when I was breastfeeding Corbin and I needed a break from it. I had no problem making up a bottle, handing it to my husband, and heading to sonic for a much needed Vanilla Coke. No judgement.

Jay and I sacrificed a lot for me to stay home with C for the last year. We sold a vehicle to pay off the other car, allowing us to be completely debt free. Financially, one vehicle was the only way for me to stay home. So we did it. And it was hard some days, but it was worth it.

Now the time has come for me to go back to work. I always knew I would return (or really thought so, at least). I love to work. I have also returned to school to get my Master’s degree, which has been a long-time goal of mine. It’s finally happening, and I’m excited about it, too.

All that to say:

Working moms…be sensitive to stay-at-home-moms. What they do is work…maybe not in the sense that many people think, but it is hard and stressful and 24/7. There are very little breaks for the SAHM.

Stay-at-home-moms…be sensitive to working moms. They love their careers, and can love their children at the same time. Maybe they have to work…maybe they choose to. Either way, many of them are doing what they’re doing because they know it’s best for their family.

For now, I will do my happy dance regarding my new job. Cover me in prayer March 11.

This weekend when flooded with guilt, I rest in this verse from Colossians 3:

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.”


2 thoughts on “Returning to work

  1. I’m so glad we found each other in this bloggy “world”! I loved this post and feel grateful to read your perspective. What an amazing undertaking – new Mom, new job, and grad school! I wanted to say that I feel incredibly driven to succeed in my career, and at the same time, passionate about being a Mom, so I do believe we can all be successful in following our dreams. And I can’t wait to read more about how you make that happen in your life.

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