The little one has been sick. Actually we both have. And, not that I enjoy when he’s sick, but he is awfully snuggly 🙂
I call it…”Mountain of Corbin Juices.” Yes, this is the ridiculous amount of clothing I wash (often) because of my sweet son’s reflux. You actually can’t see the 20 burp rags, 10 bibs, 4 blankets, and a crazy amount of onesies stuffed underneath the crib sheet on top. Poor thing. Six months is supposed to be the peak of reflux. Let’s all pray that’s the case!
Ah the Maya Wrap. For real, this is one of those products I really couldn’t do without!
When I was trying to research wraps and slings, a friend of mine told me about the Maya Wrap. She’s had three babies and really loves the wrap! She let me borrow hers when I had my son, and once I figured out how to work it, I was so excited! All of the sudden, I had full use of both hands. WHAT?! I could carry my baby and brush my teeth, or fix dinner, or clean something. Sigh…freedom. That’s what the Maya Wrap brings.
- Style. The wrap comes in tons of cute colors and patterns. Mix and match with your wardrobe!
- Fully adjustable. Some other wraps are fit to a certain size, but the Maya wrap (because of its design and metal ring) adjusts completely. Make it ooh-la-la comfy.
- Doubles as a nursing cover. Important because the scientific law regarding diaper bags is that there’s never enough room for everything! A two-in-one deal is a must.
- Works for newborns and older children! You’re able to wear this with newborns (make sure you read about baby safety here!) as well as older children. Boo to the yah.
- Can be adjusted with one hand. This part is pretty great as well! You can hold your baby in the wrap with one hand and tighten it with the other. Some other slings or wraps require both hands to tie/manipulate the wrap. I found it pretty easy to work this one once I got the hang of it.
- Price. The wrap is a bit on the expensive side (running about $60-70 a pop). I will tell you it’s totally worth it!
- More complicated than other wraps. Many wraps are pretty self explanatory. You stick the baby in and you’re done. This one is a little more complicated. My friend showed me how to use mine, but you could also watch the DVD that comes with the wrap. (That’s right…it’s high-tech.) Or you could go to the website and see instructions. It’s important to read some sort of manual so you know how to wear the wrap safely.
All this to say…Corbin loves the wrap! When he’s fussy and I know it’s because he’s tired, I swaddle him up all nice and cuddly, and he goes right to sleep. Life. Saver.
Anyone else have a wrap or sling they love? Let me know!
In the first few weeks of bringing my son home, I remember thinking to myself, “I wonder when you stop feeling sticky.” C has dealt with reflux from the beginning, so there’s been a fair amount of spit up in our house since October.
Spit up aside, there are tons of issues new moms face that make life as a new mom pretty hard! I was talking with a sweet friend the other day who ventured out of her house with her 12-week old baby. I asked her how she was, and she said, “I’m okay. I’m trying to be very honest. I’m not good. I’m just okay.” I told her that she and her baby were surviving, and that’s good enough.
It’s true, though. As a new mom, when people ask how you are, you want to respond with, “I’m awesome! I’m supermom. My baby is clean, my dinner is cooked, and I’m totally in control of my sanity.” But in reality, that’s just not how it goes for some of us.
The first few weeks with C were pretty difficult. I struggled with a little bit of pain from his birth, as well as some mild postpartum issues, though they didn’t seem so mild at the time! My mom took off several days of work to stay with me (Praise. God.). She was a labor and delivery nurse for a long time, so I was even more excited to have her there!
Though she and my husband swear differently (I mean, who would tell a new mom she was a crazy person), I was a hot mess. And not hot as in attractive. No, no…hot as in hormone-ranging, temperature-out-of-control, can’t find my keys in my hand crazy lady. I was totally overwhelmed with motherhood. And it didn’t help to see moms of three walking down the sidwalk with babies strapped to their chests, their two-year-old twins in a stroller, and their oh-so-perfect leashed Pomeranian walking calmly right beside. The worst offense? Makeup. They have the nerve to wear makeup. I couldn’t even find my makeup, much less remember how to apply it…or care to do so.
If I had attempted such a feat in my first few months of motherhood, neighbors would’ve found me in the clothes I slept in, crumpled on the sidewalk with my newborn incorrectly swaddled in my sling, holding two unattached leashes, while my Yorkie and Chihuahua scampered down the street reeking havoc.
We can’t do it all. We’re actually lucky to do any of it. Especially in those first few weeks (or months for some of us!), you have to focus on just the basics. What does my baby need to survive? In talking with some of my new-mom friends, I came up with a few survival tips for getting through the first few months.
- Focus on Feeding: Your baby needs food to survive. Your number one job as a mom is to provide that food, whether through breast milk or formula. It’s okay if your son or daughter doesn’t have a cute outfit on or you’re not totally able to decipher all his or her different cries. Your job is to feed your baby. The rest will come. (Haven’t decided on breast milk or formula? Click here if you wonder why I chose breast milk.)
- Get Going: It’s important to get enough sleep, but I found myself just lounging around. For hours. It’s great to rest, but don’t become a sulking, lazy person. I found it made my depression symptoms worse, making me feel more like a failure. Get up! Move around!
- Find Friends: Do you know someone who works from home? Or a stay-at-home mom? Or a neighbor who has Fridays off? Interact with people, namely adults. Don’t isolate yourself. Be open to discovering a new group of friends! The help-me-keep-my-sanity friend group.
- Allow Aid: You know those people who tell you, “If you need anything, feel free to call me.” Get the phone sister. Dial. Them. Up. I dealt with a lot of guilt when considering calling someone to help me clean up the house or fix dinner. I thought, What if they didn’t mean it? What if they were just being nice? I don’t want to impose. Impose. In fact, let them come over and hold the baby while you do something. At times I needed to do something productive. I wanted to clean something so I felt like I wasn’t wasting away.
- Leave your Location: This was probably the biggest one for me. Get out of your house! I remember people telling me that, and I thought, But then I have to get him dressed, and put him in his car seat, and put him in the car. I’m not even sure where my keys are. My keys! What if I lost the keys, and there’s an emergency? How will I get him to the hospital? Oh my gosh, I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHERE THE NEAREST HOSPITAL IS!?! Slight mental breakdown. It’s not that hard. Unless it’s freakishly cold outside, your baby can survive the five second walk to the car in his or her car seat in nothing but a diaper and blankets. If you’re worried, start the car a few minutes early to let it heat up. Put the baby in the car, and go. Just anywhere. Drive through your favorite coffee place. Chick-fil-a? Sonic? Just go someplace where you can clear your mind. Drive around for several minutes. Your baby may really like the motion in the car. Mine did! He slept in there quite nicely.
This is how I survived.
If you have special circumstances (post-partum problems or breastfeeding issues), get help! Call your local hospital and tell them what’s going on. They can direct you to people who can help. If you can’t afford help through the hospital, local churches often have counselors with discounted rates who can talk with you. For breastfeeding issues, try the La Leche League. They’re free and will fight for your breastfeeding relationship with your child.
One day at a time. It will get better.
What’s your new mom survival story? Do you have any other advice to add?